Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple. – Dr. Seuss
I learned of another loss of a close friend this week via Facebook.
This week, my girlfriend, “Bernie” (Bernadette) lost her battle with ALS.
To all that knew her, they knew the light inside he that shined and that she was loved.
Bernie and I met almost 9 years ago when we worked together in Human Resource. I recall her telling me, “I know where you live!! Wow. I grew up on that street, and from that first meeting, we quickly became close friends.
My times with her were spent like any others, sharing stories of life, discussing men, work, friends, having coffee, dinner, drink and believe it or not, we even went to a personal trainer together and started a work out routine.
This is one of my funniest memories of Bernie, as she was always so humbled. We started seeing a personal trainer together during lunch hours, and one day when she got back to her office, she had to call me to tell me that on her way back to the office, she’d stopped in the drive-thru of McDonalds. While sitting and waiting for her food, she realized that she still was wearing the heart monitor from the personal training session that we both just took….after laughing so hard about the fact that she’d done that, we also laughed that she’d gone to McDonalds after working out together.
We spent many days laughing at life together and watching the world go by from her yard or the patio next to the Bocce courts at the end of the street.
Bernie and I both had the misfortune of being unemployed together at the same time, and we even ran into one another at the unemployment office once, as we were both laughing and hugging about it…we started meeting regularly to encourage one another in finding new jobs. We even would have dinner nights, where I would cook and we would just stay in, as to feel like we were still going out.
Over the past few years, we had only spoken on occasion, as if moved to NYCITY and she to a home.
It’s sad to lose a friend so young and especially, knowing that they were going through something so tough before passing. Had I not moved away, I would’ve been to visit and spend time with her.
Rest in peace my good friend…I know you’re in a better place, but I wish I’d had a chance to say, “goodbye”.
Love & Light